My Goodbye Social Media Experiment

09.01.19

Well so much for once a week posting - I could blame the festive period, which wouldn't be true or fair. The truth is that I've never liked feeling forced to write and rather wait until the urge hits which is probably the worst way to operate a blog if your goal is to monetise it or gain a huge following but it's not mine so for the moment I'll continue as I am.

Which brings me to the point of this post and the fact that I've decided to take a little bit of time off of social media (funny feeling it might turn out that I write more because of this). Now don't get me wrong I am not a hater of technology, I find on the most part it can be really positive and Facebook and Instagram - said goodbye to twitter a long time ago- have been my public blogs for a long time. But lately I'd found myself scrolling more and more, picking up the phone at every free opportunity and my head was getting fuller and fuller mostly with information that in no way related to my life at all. 

A big part of the Joy Project is the importance of not comparing yourself/your life to that of others but social media has a sneaky way of reminding you of all your not doing. I'd normally at this time of year be focusing on new run-club's and client coaching programs not doing that had left me feeling a bit lost and anxious and seeing all that everyone else "appeared" to be doing wasn't helping.

At 28 weeks pregnant (seeing midwife today so exciting) I don't want to be focusing on all that isn't happening, on all the goals I haven't reached, on all the pre-pregnancy clothes I can't wear and it felt like I wasn't giving myself time to accept the place I am now because my mind didn't get a second to breathe with my Insta addiction!

Feels like I'm waffling a little here so I'll cut to the chase I've been off both Facebook and Insta for a week now apart from a few sneaky little logins and I can definitely say that it's had a positive effect. I feel calmer (calm when running after a very energetic and strong willed 20 month old isn't often felt), I've felt more confident in myself when I'm not checking back on posts to see how many likes etc. they've received, I've realised how it's actually quite nice to enjoy moments without having to capture & share them on my Insta stories and instead just live in the moment capturing them instead in my mind and I suppose most importantly I've become really excited about meeting this amazing, kicking little human currently growing inside my body and also aware of the amazing people already surrounding me in our home each day. Social media can be such a positive but it can also be a thief, a stealer of time and moments that really matter.

This is NOT a criticism of anyone, I will be back because I really love the community that has built up around the joy project, I enjoy seeing what other friends are up too but I simply needed to give my brain a break.

It has also freed up time for some de-cluttering around the house and yesterday I even went through and packed up my pre-pregnancy clothes and for the first time looking at them din't feel depressing, I kept only those that I loved (sparked joy - thanks Marie Kondo) and who knows when they'll fit again but that's OK.

Because wherever we are in life right now that's ok. Even if it hasn't gone to plan. Even if it feels a bit rubbish. It's OK. Everything definitly happens for a reason and this unexpected pregnancy has helped me see things about myself that I still need to work on and really helped me be grateful for all the good in my life.

Ironically I'll be sharing this on Facebook (can do that without logging in!) 

Have lots more that I want to write but Charlie is wanting my attention so it will have to wait.

Will leave you with a reminder of what the Joy Project is all about, thank you for reading, remember you are amazing. 

Hannah x



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