Day 105 of 182
Tuesday 19th May
Went for a coffee with a friend this morning and at one stage we were chatting about how powerful this is, this being the experiment I’m on and the ten rules I’m following. Saying how brilliant it would be if these things were taught in schools- another dream of mine coming true soon with the opportunity to talk to students in Mullingar.
I was telling her about my low last Friday and how by focusing on the ten rules and filling myself back up with good feelings I was back to feeling even more amazing than before.
(I use that word a lot- amazing-but it deserves to be used)
In the last 105 days I have felt more deep lasting happiness than ever before- I am living a better life.
The thing is a lot of the time when we think of living a better life we immediately think of more money, holidays, cars, promotions – but simply feeling better in the life you are living right now is a better life.
And the power to do that lies with all of us. One thing guaranteed to do it is Gratitude.
It’s easy to get caught up in the negative.
Instead of thinking about what you don’t want and don’t have try thinking about what you already have right now. There is definitely something, it is impossible for you to not have something right now that you can be grateful for- maybe when you finish reading this write down five things that you are grateful for now.
When I first wrote the ten rules the aim was for them to become habits. I began and still do each day writing on my gratitude & things I love list and playing music that makes me happy they are now habits but they have also become a part of me. Something that I do without thinking. I only write a tiny part of what I’m grateful for on the lists because I’m always adding to it in my head.
Yesterday in the car stopped at traffic lights on the way to runclub I felt such a physical feeling of gratitude and love - for everything in that moment from the car, the song on the radio, being able to run, the sky half grey half brilliant blue, my family, my friends, even the bills on my fridge waiting to be paid how good it will feel as I pay them.
Grateful for being here alive and not waiting for something to happen that would make me happy or for somebody else to make me happy but able to by following these ten rules be happy now. It’s a beautiful way to feel and I can now recreate it anytime I want.
That to me is a life transformed and a better one.
And when I experience deep gratitude more good comes into my life maybe a nice message, an opportunity, an offer of help, one of my dreams coming true- also when I’m not grateful I notice it. This afternoon for example while trying to find a blanket that Christian had packed away high on a shelf I couldn’t reach and I whilst sighing I rudely shouted down to him to get it for me and immediately I scraped my knuckles on the shelf. A gentle sore reminder from the Universe to stop and be grateful (and kind).
“Remember if you are criticizing you are not being grateful. If you are blaming you are not being grateful. If you are complaining, you are not being grateful. If you are feeling tension you are not being grateful. If you are rushing you are not being grateful. If you are in a bad mood you are not being grateful.
Gratitude can transform your life. Are you allowing minor things to get in the way of your transformation and the life you deserve?”
The Secret Daily Teachings- Rhonda Byrne
That includes complaining about the weather. That’s not being grateful and anyway we need the rain to make rainbows.