Monday 9th February
Rule #4 Start the day HAPPY by playing my favourite songs- I have a list but allowing myself flexibility as 6 months is quite a long time!
It’s easy to get caught up in thinking about things that have happened in the past or worry about things that are to come in the future, both will affect your ability to enjoy right now.
I’ve had days when I haven’t slept great, woken up tired, kids fight with each other, I fight with the kids, feeling like as if I’m catching up on everything all day and nothing going right. Everyone does. But I know that I can make the opposite happen too by making the decision to start the day feeling good.
It’s hard to feel bad if you are thinking of something good so sometimes I’ll use a happy memory as a feel good trigger.An even quicker way for me to lift my mood or stay in a good one is to put on a piece of music that I love.
“Happiness is a state of being and it comes from the inside of you. You are either choosing to be happy now or you are making up excuses for not choosing to be happy.” The Secret
Standing in the bank last year waiting to lodge money. Everyone was complaining, how slow it was, how there were no lodgement slips, not enough staff. The man behind complained he was in such a hurry how and now his day was ruined.
I offered for him and others to go in front of me, he was still fuming. I suggested that “we are lucky to be in a position that we have money to lodge?” ok maybe that was a bit too much positivity for recession Ireland but it was true, everyone in the queue looked at me as if I had 10 heads and set off again with “it’s for a bill, not mine…if it was going into my account it would be different” I didn’t push it by saying that maybe we should be grateful for the bills, for the services we take for granted heat, electricity.
We all had a choice as to how that queue made us feel.
Now I am far from perfect and don’t want to seem patronising. I get cross, upset, stressed and angry but I know that these emotions are of no benefit to me and that I much prefer to feel good so over the next 6 months of this my “Secret” experience when the challenging situations seem to be coming in thick and fast I will treat them as opportunities to see how quickly I can change the way I feel and I know the more I do it the easier it will become.
This Monday morning though I didn’t even need my music I woke up happy & excited first job for the day setting up the bank transfers to lodge my first donation to the two charities Aware & Headstrong as part of Rule #9 Giving.The day kept getting better. Lovely response to the blog and that evening a huge turnout for the new Beginners Runclub. Proof again that when I feel good, good things happen, the first good feeling is like a stone in the water and it ripples all day. When something I do has a positive effect on somebody else it’s like as if another stone goes in creating ripple after ripple.
So music is one thing but there are lots of things that you can do that will make you feel good, paying someone a compliment, being grateful, thinking of things you love, giving.
In fact now that I think of it all of my 10 rules come back to the one thing, mindfulness.
Link below to my “Be happy now” song playing this moment on my headphones.
Sigma feat Paloma Faith Changing